Self-Love: My weekend vacation diary

A long overdue vacation just happened and Yes, I’m back to share my short but sanative and partly idyllic vacation date I had in a long while. It’s pretty obvious that I’ve been missing a lot in social media, it’s because a major purchase was made last year, though I can’t share what it is right now, I will in the near future. Sometimes this kind of big decisions can cause deprivation of the things we really enjoy and forget to be good to ourselves. It’s because of that drive to achieve that occasionally our minds forget to be kind to our body and soul. So today let’s delve on the subject of self-love, because in this crazy hectic blurring and sometime unrealistic world we live in, it’s really important to take that time off – not once in a while but YOU REALLY HAVE TO MAKE TIME FOR IT. Whether it’s about cutting-off that annoying person (a.k.a ghosting, link here), taking a holiday or simply treating yourself to what you like is paramount to self-care/love.

Happy to be making memories with
this one!

Enumerating ways of self-care and by some degree my romantic weekend in photos below:

a.   Ghosting – discussed about it on the last entry, and I never realized just how freeing it is when I totally eliminated a seemingly harmless tattler. Turns out someone’s constant negativity unhelpfully drags you.

b.  Take a break – go on a holiday, if you don’t have a reason why, well now you do. Self-love, your body and mind need a break, it needs to unwind, relax, recharge and heal to be able to function 100% again. I been putting off having a vacation for that major purchase, but it seems feeble and definitely missing out making precious memories with that travel buddy. Ladies YOLO!

Never travelling without a hat, or another
reason to get one on your next travel.

c. Do Self-Love – Make time for days where you either give in on food and splurging on something you think you absolutely deserve. Love yourself enough to be honest with what you really want. Other ways are grooming, cooking healthy for yourself, creating a clean, organized and pleasing aesthetic home environment to make you feel more relaxed.

d.    Disengage – probably toughest but can be done, it’s what I did mostly for a few months. Staying neutral and unseen for quite some time made me focus more on people who are dear to me. It created a higher quality of link to individuals who are significant in my life. 

Above are all really simple, I guess it’s my way of just reminding you to make time for whatever brings you joy – Love yourself! And ladies, I’ve been away for a while, but I will never be permanently gone from sharing and hopefully inspiring all of you.

xoxo,

Clyde

Top: MDS   Bottom : VGY

I've been on a health buff and contemplating
on ordering wine.

FYI just stopped raining, and happy to resume
touring!

Red Dress: The Editors Market , Leonie Ruffle
Midi dress $39 

Front design of the dress

Just needed to share this, because its not all the time glam!
I'm on a date in my tsinelas - minus 5 but who cares!
I'm with my love who absolutely think its cute

Girl Bye! Handling and Cutting off subtly toxic people

If I cut you off, chances are, you handed me the scissors.

Greeting Monday with a bold statement is such a badass, don’t you think? Hello girls I’m back! This subject has been in my drafts for some time now and since it’s my comeback(ish) article, I decided to give it a go. By nature, I’m a fixer I would probably think or bang my head a thousand times, before deciding which unfortunately sometimes lead me to a more miserable situation. My fashion advice: Less is more, which we could all probably use in terms of keeping (or not!) relationships with people. If it does not directly hurt you and the person is “not bad enough”, does it justify cutting ties? Answer, YES, it’s called self-care ladies (or DETOX?) In order to stay positive, we don’t want drama. So if you are in a situation where in you have doubts whether to pull the plug on someone or just eliminate them, here are my take on how to handle this type of situation, its easier when done the right way.

IG: wlyder11 

a. Talk - I know for some of you it’s dreadful, not all of us are confrontational. But you have to be an adult and say why you suddenly want that space or distance. Do you have that situation where on you need to rehash it with a friend to be able to feel ok again? This is the same case ladies, being able to talk or discuss it to that toxic person, weather she may like it or not is the proper thing to do. It is the other person’s problem if she does not believe or like your reasons, this way you can move forward in peace.  

b. Don’t Argue - no one likes to be cut out so there is a high possibility of anger, if the discussion gets heaty, remember you are not there to explain but to restate your boundaries. Don’t feed into it or allow it. Respecting boundaries comes naturally to well-adjusted adults, unlike toxic people which thrive on violating them. Just state your reason, you don’t need to answer why, how or give additional details.

c. Create distance - there are people who are not really toxic but would just be a “drag”.  I have a friend who would constantly declines offers in order to avoid any interactions with a specific person, and would ask me if doing so is bad. Well, I just have to give her this blog link later, I’m sure she’ll benefit from this in the future. Totally fine if you would rather spent time with other friends who are positive and contributes to you’re feeling good.

d. Not do anything at all - probably easiest among all, just remember, you don’t owe anyone an explanation. Slowly ghost out of their lives until you are no longer affected by their negativity.

IG: wlyder11

Ladies life is too short to be anything but happy, surround yourself with people who make you laugh and focus solely on the good. 

xoxo,

Clyde

Holiday Yachting

It’s true, nothing beats the Philippines when it comes to celebrating Christmas, as soon as the BER months comes in, holiday hymns, cheers and décor will start to pop up everywhere, and people will also have that merry jolly feeling. Sadly for Filipinos oversea who are not coming home for the holidays, (me!) we scramble to make our homes, tables, even food and including our general attitude to be in that mood.  It’s double the sadness when you’re celebrating your birthday during these days that you really wish you can somehow teleport or re-celebrate your past birthdays, wished you could have done it more appreciatively with family and friends and not whine about small details over some dress or party details.  What does a girl do to have a blast, gather some really close friends and do a thing that you really wanted to do! In my case that would be yachting!  I have always wondered and hope that one day I could somehow hop into that yacht and sail away, away from the stress and busyness of the city.

With some girl friends who joined primp and style activity before, we went for it and par-tay for a day at the yacht! Happy to share our experience here.

Safety First, we were briefed about yacht rule before sailing.

Sunblock first!

Ours for the day, thanks Whitesails!

Getting ready to Sail

Mermaids for a day, we anchored at Lazarus Island to go for a swim.

A must pose on the yacht deck. 

The lower deck has this 2 sets of net, where you can sunbathe and

relax while the yacht is sailing, a fun spot to do a squad photo.

Deciding whether to jump or just pose, is
it shallow or deep. Anchored at Lazarus Island.

Wondering where I get this monokini?
There are tons of sexy, cute and fun swimwear
at lightinthebox.com

I say before the year ends or this coming 2017 go for what you really wish and wanted to do or experience. Trust me it will be all worth it!

Happy Holiday Ladies!

xoxo,

Clyde